types of friends
Casual friends: acquaintances, people that you know from school or work that you don't have deep conversations with.
Close Friends: you might be more inclined to share your childhood stories, dreams, concerns about life, goals, and beliefs.
The best way to be compatible with great friends is to be a great friend.
Check yourself and everything else will follow.
Friends listen to each other and support each other, it is however, alright for a friend to set boundaries and ask you to not vent as much or talk about a difficult situation as often. You can go over what you are doing to resolve the issue or focus on self care and then talk about other topics. One can become overwhelmed by a friend's problems; especially if they truly care and would take to fix everything but know that doing so is not possible. Share the time with your friends wisely, there are many other things to talk about and distraction can be a constructive part of self care.
Friends of the opposite sex: A friend can be of the opposite sex, this has been problematic in our history due to ideas around gender norms. We know that people of all genders are the same and can share interests, world views and perspectives. What matters is that you respect each others' boundaries. It is completely alright for you to keep your friends if you enter a relationship, only an abusive partner will try to tell you that you can no longer speak to your friends no matter what their gender is.
physical attraction and dating
Infatuation: Intense feelings of attraction toward someone, a normal experience that usually begin in the teenage years, we call it a "crush".
going out as a group
Many people meet up for activities like bowling or practicing a sport, dating often grows out of group activities. dating helps us learn more about the other person's personality, interests, abilities, and values, it is a healthy way to get to know them better while staying in a public place.
group activities can help you see how the person interact with others, how they treat the workers at a place that you visit, or how funny they are.
After a date one may decide that they would rather keep spending time with the group or that they would like to have both group and date activities.
A healthy relationship
risks of physical intimacy
abstinence and celibacy
more than 50% of rape victims know their rapist
remember that you are valuable, you deserve love and you deserve respect. Abuse is never your fault and you can only try your best and hope for the best
The Cycle of Violence:
There is generally a three stage cycle:
warning signs of abuse
Many movies show abusive behaviors as romantic.
It is ok to break up with someone, you don't owe them an explanation, if you tell them how you feel and it is not helping because the person does not help, it's ok to just cut them off and surround yourself with good friends.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.