types of friends
Casual friends: acquaintances, people that you know from school or work that you don't have deep conversations with.
Close Friends: people you might be more inclined to share your childhood stories, dreams, concerns about life, goals, and beliefs with.
The best way to be compatible with great friends is to be a great friend.
Check yourself and everything else will follow, hopefully, check for reciprocity.
Friends listen to each other and support each other, it is however, alright for a friend to set boundaries and ask you to not vent as much or talk about a difficult situation as often.
You can go over what you are doing to resolve the issue or focus on self care and then talk about other topics. One can become overwhelmed by a friend's problems; especially if they truly care and would like to fix everything but know that doing so is not possible.
Share the time with your friends wisely, there are many other things to talk about and distraction can be a constructive part of self care. Talking to a counselor can lead to the best support available, they have gone through training to know how to navigate difficult conversations.
Friends of the opposite sex: A friend can be of the opposite sex, this has been problematic in our history due to ideas around gender norms. We know that people of all genders are the same and can share interests, world views and perspectives. What matters is that you respect each others' boundaries. It is completely alright for you to keep your friends if you enter a relationship, only an abusive partner will try to tell you that you can no longer speak to your friends, no matter what their gender is.
Infatuation: Intense feelings of attraction toward someone, a normal experience, we call it a "crush".
Many people meet up for activities like bowling or practicing a sport, dating often grows out of group activities. dating helps us learn more about the other person's personality, interests, abilities, and values, it is a healthy a way to get to know them better while staying in a public place.
Group activities can help you see how the person:
After a date they may decide that they would rather keep spending time with the group or that they would like to have both group and date activities.
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REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE VALUABLE, YOU DESERVE LOVE AND YOU DESERVE RESPECT. ABUSE IS NEVER YOUR FAULT AND YOU CAN ONLY TRY YOUR BEST AND HOPE FOR THE BEST
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Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially at fault for the harm that befell them. The study of victimology seeks to mitigate the perception of victims as responsible.
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it can happen to anyone, any gender
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There is generally a three stage cycle:
- The person going through the abuse may try to prevent a violent outbreak by doing what the abuser wants, or reasoning with the abuser.
- The tension is broken and the abuser behaves in a way that leads the survivor to feel unsafe.
- Abuser usually apologizes and says that it won't happen again, presents excuses and expects the survivor to eat it all up and move on as though it never happened.
- The abuser may subtly blame the victim for the abuse.
WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSE
- Person is jealous when you talk to others
- Makes fun of you in front of others
- Makes all the decisions and tries to control what you do
- Has a history of bad relationships
- You feel isolated from your friends and family
- You feel less confident, you worry about doing or saying the right thing, you try to avoid arguments
- Any pushing or jokes about hurting you
Many movies show abusive behaviors as romantic.
- Sometimes we are taught that aggression is a sign of masculinity or that men are entitled to control women
- Sometimes we are taught that if we are not the abuser we will be abused
It is ok to break up with someone, you don't owe them an explanation, if you tell them how you feel and it is not helping because the person does not help, it's ok to just cut them off and surround yourself with good friends.
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RED FLAGS OF ABUSE:
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