What is personality?
The way that we express who we are, the behaviors, attitudes, feelings, and ways of thinking that make us each an individual.
The 5 big personality traits
For some it is better to be a high scorer and for some to be a low scorer:
There is a Myers & Briggs Personality Test:
Opportunities for self- expression:
Having more experience with breaking out of our comfort zone will influence our personality.
Development of trust:
An infant depends on others for food, a clean diaper, and affection: if these needs are met, the child learns to trust other people, if these needs are not met, the child learns to mistrust and withdraw.
Learning to be independent:
As we learn to do things on our own, independence can be considered part of personality, intentional practice matters, find ways to be independent.
Ways to learn more about who you are
We plan our activities and set our goals by reflecting on our personal interests. As we develop a sense of right and wrong, we might take initiative to speak up against oppression and inequity, this can lead to thinking of new clubs, bands, web sites, and dreams, our level of initiative is part of personality .
As we grow, we learn how to take care of ourselves and others, how to have our needs met, we collect study skills, learning skills, social skills, our skills help us feel competent, as we grow, we know that we are closer to reaching our goals because we worked on gaining the skills that we will use to get there.
Search for identity:
A sense of self and identity includes what motivates us to keep on going. Our frame of mind, or topics of conversation, what we like to do with your free time, what we are working on for ourselves and for others.
We may establish close bonds with others, know that it won’t always go the way we expected, we might find out that a person is not who we thought they were, find ways to honor your boundaries.
Do not give up on the possibility of building a large network of healthy relationships with friends, family and colleagues.
Create and nurture:
Help your friends and family-thrive, tell them how they can help you thrive. Nurture vulnerable populations such as children and the elderly. Stay up to date with the agencies that serve them, monitor progress and funding sources for public health programs. Advocate for policies that protect them such as rigorous background checks for anyone that works with them. Build community events around raising awareness to hold space for artists and musicians.
Personality is connected to confidence
To create goals that are clear and reachable, create SMART goals:
Your brain is still developing, what you focus on matters
You will let go of types of brain use that you do not use, use it or lose it. It is a natural process that helps you get better at what you focus on, think of what you focus on now and how that will affect your future. If you practice thinking of consequences and making plans or setting goals, you will get better and better at it.
This is wonderful in many ways, use this power wisely.
The more we respect other people, the more we realize that people can be respectful, we are more likely to believe that other can be respectful because if we can do it, so can they
If someone is not respecting you, you can stop engaging, you are free to stop talking to them, we can't change anyone. You can let them know how they are bugging you but if they shame you or deny your experience then there is nothing you can do about that.
Retaliation often leads to escalation.
We tend to surround ourselves with people that are like us and share our sense of humor, this is the reason some people believe think stuff like "all people are racist" or "all men are sexist", oppression is normalized though "sense of humor" to mask the intent to oppress. A lot of truth is said in jest as people reveal their innermost values.
A great way to stop saying oppressive things is to stop thinking in an oppressive way.
If we say something oppressive, it is not a "slip-up", it is an expression of our values, we can correct ourselves by remembering where we learned to think this way and unpack our own logic. Reflect on why you said what you said and apologize to anyone that was hurt. Sometimes we have to unlearn may things to move forward.
Oppressive means: sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic, classist... any form of hate or negativity that aims to put some groups of people over others.
All oppression is learned.
It is usually a fear of lack of control over a situation, or fear of lack of resources. For example racism can come from wanting to put people down so they don't feel that they deserve to share space with you. Racism tends to discourage people from applying to jobs; they might feel that they won't fit in, or will constantly have to cope with racism and be stressed out on a daily basis.
A fear of lack of job opportunity can motivate a community to use racism to push people away; it is direct oppression, and it hurts entire communities.
This can rob us of the opportunity to learn from each other and even create more jobs.
Our values affect our personality.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.