Reflect on alternatives to health risk behaviors in the areas related to:
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• Sexuality: get to know people, do not use people as a distraction, use protection such as condoms, ask people about STIs, ask when the last time they got tested was and if they have any reason to be concerned about STIs since then

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• Main STIs
  • Bacterial: Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis
  • Viral: Herpes, HIV

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• Nutrition: Eat a balanced diet, balance fats, proteins, sugars, vitamins

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• Alcohol: Binge drinking, drinking too much is more than 3 drinks

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• Tobacco: Tobacco products have about 1,500 unnecessary, toxic chemicals

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• Other drug use: look at erowid.org, some drugs are terrible while some may be used as therapy

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• Physical activity: exercise 30 min, 3 times per week, at least

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• Personal safety: think about the risks involved in an activity before doing the activity, safety plan, think of the things that can go wrong and what you can do to avoid danger

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• Mental, social, and emotional well being: create music and art shows, go to your friends music and art shows, talk about how you feel

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(e.g., abstinence, condom use, other pregnancy prevention methods, selection of healthy food choices, “natural highs,” etc.);

​How to analyze situations related to health crises and formulate solutions to intervene or prevent the crisis (i.e., a friend tells you he is thinking about suicide; a friend tells you he is smoking, a friend tells you she is pregnant, etc.) 

Stages of Grief:

• Denial
• Anger
• Bargaining
• Depression
• Acceptance

What we learn to do as we reach adulthood:
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• How to Mediate Emotion
• How to Take Responsibility
• How to Listen
• How We Learn and How to Apply Our Skills
• How to Communicate
• How to Take Turns
• How to Foster Balance

Food Macronutrients:

Protein, carbohydrates, and fat 
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Vitamins and minerals are micronutrients


https://www.healthline.com/health/food-nutrition/six-essential-nutrients#minerals

A couple can have a close relationship without being sexually active through developing:
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Openness:

• Feeling free to talk to each other
• Feeling safe being yourself
• Trying new things together
• Building memories
• Sharing insecurities
• Sharing what you are each proud of

 
Sharing:

• Stories of growth
• Life lessons
• Childhood stories
• Hopes and fears
• Dreams and goals
• Skills and knowledge

 
Affection:

• ​cuddling
• Kissing
• Hand holding
• Being openly in a relationship, not hiding the relationship
• Backing each other up, defending each other calmly

 
Trust:

• ​Being able to share experiences and feelings without the person violating your trust
• Being able to trust that your boundaries will be respected
• Not having to worry about dishonesty
• Not having to worry about cheating
• Not having to monitor anybody's freedom

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• Set clear limits, decide what your boundaries are before the relationship
• Communicate your limits, a respectful partner will respect your limits
• Avoid high pressure situations
• Assert yourself
• This is a great way to practice boundary setting and seeing if the other person offers respect.
• If they don't respect you then you can see they they are probably abusive early on and can break up with them without wasting your emotional energy.

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​A rapist can be a person of any sex or gender.

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For sex positive consent look at this checklist:
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• Do you trust each other?

 

• Do you feel safe together?

 

• Can you talk about your problems and feel heard?

 

• Can you talk if something is bothering you?

 

• Do you listen to each other?

 

• Do you talk about having sex and what it means to you or what you want?

 

• Can you talk openly about what you want out of the relationship and your boundaries?

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• Birth control, if it is heterosex, have you discussed this?

 

• Health status, are there any concerns that you need to share?

 

• STI testing, and if there has been recent possible exposure to an STI.

 

• Sexual activity level, if you want a monogamous relationship, or they want multiple partners, it is ok to have any form of agreement as long as all parties involved are informed and feel that their decisions are respected.

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• Do you feel you need to have alcohol or drugs to have sex?

 

• Do you know how to use condoms and dental dams to prevent STIs?

 

• Do you both want to do it? Do you both feel ready to do it?

 

• Is anybody pressuring anybody?

 

• All partners need to have equal say in what is going on.

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• An equal share of power and control in the relationship.

Consent is vital

• Sex without consent is rape

 

• Sexual contact without consent is assault or rape

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• Rape is not something that necessarily/or usually happens with a stranger

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• It is usually very subtle and starts with someone that you know and trust, we think of it as violent or physically restraining.

 

• A "friend" might objectify you and see you as a toy or person that is just there for sexual gratification.

 

• Your feelings and values might not matter to them at all, they are not a real friend :(.

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• There could be an unfortunate lack of empathy, recognizing this can be painful, also lifesaving.

 

• It can be inappropriate touching that activates a natural body response, if you did not want this to begin with it can be confusing and make you wonder if you want it now.

 

• Listen to yourself to reflect on your intent in the interaction, if you were not interested in sex then you might be experiencing manipulation or coercion.

 

• The perpetrator may use pressure manipulation, drugs, alcohol, and force, or "seduction" to get the person to cross the boundaries of the relationship.

 

• Is essential, not a favor, or a sign of a particularly good person

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• Sex is never owed, it does not matter if you have had sex before, if the bought you a gift or dinner, even if you are naked. 

 

• You always have the right to revoke consent, a healthy partner will respect this

 

• If you feel that the relationship has changed, it needs to be ok to have a conversation about what changes you have noticed without feeling shamed or invalidated 

No means No
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• Rape is not about love, it is about power and control, manipulation, and coercion. ​

• It is active oppression.  

 

• You deserve to make decisions about sex on your own volition. 

 

• Follow your intuition and trust yourself. 

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• Many abusive partners start the relationship with sexual coercion

 

• Getting away from a rapist may mean having to find new friends, if the friends want to keep the rapist around.  You may need to stay at home to avoid a dangerous person. 

 

• Not all social circles accept rapists; a healthy community will talk to the rapist and clarify that the behavior is violent, they may refer them to resources such as articles about rape, most of the time the rapist is completely aware that what they are doing is wrong because they were raised to believe they are entitled to do what they did.  A healthy community will ask rapists to stay away.

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• You deserve a safe community that cares about consent. 

 

• It is not right for people to tell you that it is your job to set boundaries and tolerate the community rapist, people who say that are justifying rape and creating a community that is rapist friendly.

 

• People who say "just set boundaries and tell people to f off" usually experience privilege and are not the target of rapists, they are usually men who are blind to their privilege

 

• It is great to know how to set boundaries, if a person is a rapist then they are dangerous, the danger can escalate so it is not up to you to set boundaries to stay safe​

 

• Nobody should be hurting you in any way

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• Abusers benefit from victim blaming

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• Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially at fault for the harm that befell them. 

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• Culture is shaped by what we are taught to say in certain situations, most of the time we are programmed to say victim blaming things so reflecting on the things that are commonly said to survivors is very important. 

Here are some examples of victim blaming lines:

• What did you expect?
• Did you drink?
• What did you wear?
• Had you consented before?
• Men get these biological urges to rape, they just can’t help themselves.
• The victim did not say no (sometimes people freeze)
• Why didn't you just walk away? (the violence could escalate if you try to get away)
• Why didn't you fight or use pepper spray? (maybe you thought you could trust them not to rape you)
• Why did you go to that place?
• Why are you hanging out at a bar or club?
• Why are you hanging out with people that have tattoos?
• Why are you hanging out with people that dress like that?
• That has not happened to me.
• You are attracting abusers
• You manifest your own reality and are attracting abusers.
• If you had not thought about this you would not have manifested it.
• You have "the look".
• You look easy to take advantage of.
• If you warn people about this rapist, you are violating their privacy.
• The victim’s parents should have taught him/her warning signs.
• The victim should have known what he/she was getting him/herself into.
• In cases of underage perpetrators: The rapist is only a child him/herself.

Saying these things propagates abuse and helps abusers.
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https://msmagazine.com/2013/05/28/rape-splaining-10-examples-of-victim-blaming/
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​Unhealthy relationships are based on power and control instead of love and respect. These are some unhealthy behaviors.

• Judgemental name calling, trying to get a reaction out of you

 

• Play fighting to start normalizing hitting

 

• "Playfully" being rude, to see if they can get away with it

 

• Looking for your insecurities in order to poke at them

 

• Lightly pushing you or pretending to hit you

 

• Asking you where you are at all times

 

• Controlling what you wear

 

• Telling you to remove accessories because "they don't like them"

 

• Not letting you see or talk to friends or family (isolation)

 

• Trying to get you to move somewhere else (isolation)

 

• Rushing the relationship and not respecting your boundaries

 

• Making fun of you in front of your friends

 

• Making fun of you in front of their friends

 

• Not "letting" you do what you want, not supporting hobbies or activities

 

• Not wanting you to go to the gym or be in a dance class because you might cheat

 

• Not allowing friends because 'you might cheat"

 

• Tracking you, even with a bitmoji 

 

• Asking for your address before you are ready to share it

 

• Pressuring you to show them your home before you are ready or wanting to make plans to meet privately when you still want to meet in public places.

 

• Wanting to know too much information about your family. 

 

• Telling you that your friends and family are against you.

 

• Trying to be the center of your life and take all of your attention

 

• Threats of suicide if you leave or go somewhere like a family gathering.

 

• Asking you to use illegal substances

 

• Asking you to carry or hide illegal substances

 

• Trying to get you do do anything illegal.

 

• Comparing your looks to other people's

 

• Judging your body

 

• Telling other people about your body

 

• Privacy violation, opening your email or social media

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• There are many other possible unhealthy behaviors​

• You feel free to be yourself

• You can share how you feel without feeling ridiculed or shamed

 

• You have not reason to wonder whether or not your partner will approve of simple decisions like what to wear

 

• You make decisions together

 

• You feel respected

 

• You know you can leave the relationship if you want to

 

• If you set a boundary you don't need to explain yourself

 

• ​If you don't want to share certain information, like where you live or your blood type because you're not ready your partner just says ok 

 

• Your personal goals are supported

 

• Your family is respected

 

• Your culture is respected and not put down

 

• You discuss the goals of the relationship, it is clear what the intent of the relationship is whether you intend to get married later on or just be together temporarily

 

• There are no secrets

 

• The person does not disappear for long periods of time and then not tell you where they went so it's a mystery and you're not allowed to talk about it.

 

• You feel supported and feel you can be supportive toward the person

 

• You respect them and actually like them for who they are

 

• You don't want to change anything about them and they don't want to change anything about you.

A healthy relationship is an expression of mutual respect.​
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The USPSTF recommends that the following persons be considered for PrEP:

1. Men who have sex with men, are sexually active, and have 1 of the following characteristics:

• A serodiscordant sex partner (ie, in a sexual relationship with a partner living with HIV)
• Inconsistent use of condoms during receptive or insertive anal sex
• A sexually transmitted infection (STI) with syphilis, gonorrhea, or chlamydia within the past 6 months

2. Heterosexually active women and men who have 1 of the following characteristics:

• A serodiscordant sex partner (ie, in a sexual relationship with a partner living with HIV)
• Inconsistent use of condoms during sex with a partner whose HIV status is unknown and who is at high risk (eg, a person who injects drugs or a man who has sex with men and women)
• An STI with syphilis or gonorrhea within the past 6 months

3. Persons who inject drugs and have 1 of the following characteristics:
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• Shared use of drug injection equipment
• Risk of sexual acquisition of HIV (see above)

Persons who engage in transactional sex, such as sex for money, drugs, or housing, including commercial sex workers or persons trafficked for sex work, constitute another group at high risk of HIV acquisition and should be considered for PrEP based on the criteria outlined above. Men who have sex with men and women are at risk of HIV acquisition and should be evaluated for PrEP according to the criteria outlined above for men who have sex with men and heterosexually active men.

Transgender women and men who are sexually active may be at increased risk of HIV acquisition and should be considered for PrEP based on the criteria outlined above. Transgender women are at especially high risk of HIV acquisition. The CDC estimates that approximately one-fourth of transgender women are living with HIV, and more than half (an estimated 56%) of black/African American transgender women are living with HIV.4 Although trials of PrEP enrolled few transgender women and no trials have been conducted among transgender men, PrEP has been shown to reduce the risk of HIV acquisition during receptive and insertive anal and vaginal sex. Therefore, its use may be considered in all persons (cisgender and transgender) at high risk of sexual acquisition of HIV.
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​We have good reason to want to know people on a deeper level before we become more intimately involved
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• Personal Preference- what you like to eat
• Cultural background- what foods you are familiar with
• Time and convenience- how much time you have to work on a meal
• Friends- What your friends make or prefer to eat
• The media- Advertisements

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​Click for FDA web page:

How to Understand and Use the Nutrition Facts Label​