types of friends
Casual friends: acquaintances, people that you know from school or work that you don't have deep conversations with.
Close Friends: you might be more inclined to share your childhood stories, dreams, concerns about life, goals, and beliefs.
The best way to be compatible with great friends is to be a great friend.
Check yourself and everything else will follow.
Friends listen to each other and support each other, it is however, alright for a friend to set boundaries and ask you to not vent as much or talk about a difficult situation as often. You can go over what you are doing to resolve the issue or focus on self care and then talk about other topics. One can become overwhelmed by a friend's problems; especially if they truly care and would take to fix everything but know that doing so is not possible. Share the time with your friends wisely, there are many other things to talk about and distraction can be a constructive part of self care.
Friends of the opposite sex: A friend can be of the opposite sex, this has been problematic in our history due to ideas around gender norms. We know that people of all genders are the same and can share interests, world views and perspectives. What matters is that you respect each others' boundaries. It is completely alright for you to keep your friends if you enter a relationship, only an abusive partner will try to tell you that you can no longer speak to your friends no matter what their gender is.
physical attraction and dating
Infatuation: Intense feelings of attraction toward someone, a normal experience that usually begin in the teenage years, we call it a "crush".
going out as a group
Many people meet up for activities like bowling or practicing a sport, dating often grows out of group activities. dating helps us learn more about the other person's personality, interests, abilities, and values, it is a healthy way to get to know them better while staying in a public place.
group activities can help you see how the person interact with others, how they treat the workers at a place that you visit, or how funny they are.
After a date one may decide that they would rather keep spending time with the group or that they would like to have both group and date activities.
A healthy relationship
risks of physical intimacy
abstinence and celibacy
more than 50% of rape victims know their rapist
remember that you are valuable, you deserve love and you deserve respect. Abuse is never your fault and you can only try your best and hope for the best
The Cycle of Violence:
There is generally a three stage cycle:
warning signs of abuse
Many movies show abusive behaviors as romantic.
It is ok to break up with someone, you don't owe them an explanation, if you tell them how you feel and it is not helping because the person does not help, it's ok to just cut them off and surround yourself with good friends.
Family and SOcial HEalth
This topic is complex because there are so many possibilities for family dynamics and what well being can look like. Our book covers some of the changes that we have seen in recent years, on pg 113 it goes over the rising presence of women in the workforce. More than half of women with pre-school children work outside their home, sometimes as single moms, over 86% of single parents are women.
nuclear family- a couple and their children
Adoption- the legal process through which a couple will take another persons child into their family
Single parent family- only one parent lives with children
Extended family- group of close relatives living together or near each other, grandparents, teachers, uncles, aunts, or cousins
Blended family- when parents remarry and children from both parents live together
Foster family- when people take care of a child when their biological family is not able to take care of them
responsibilities WITHIN the family
All members of the family are meant to share responsibilities, chores and responsibilities can be adjusted according to age. Youth can help with cleaning and cooking regardless of gender.
what a healthy family dynamic looks like
useful skills for families
Resolving Conflicts: by focusing on collaboration and compromise
Expressing Emotions: being a safe space for elf expression is critical
Making decisions: as an egalitarian family unit where all members have an equal share in the decision making process
Managing Time: creating goals with timelines that are broken down into smaller steps so the members of the family can keep track of the progress
When the family needs help: family therapy, support groups, community involvement, individual counseling aside from family therapy
Passive Aggressive Behavior
What does it mean to be assertive?
We have many social cues
First we will review some of last week
Chapter 3, pg. 56
what is stress?
Stress is the response of your body and mind to being challenged or threatened.
four general types of stressors
HOW STRESS AFFECTS YOUR BODY
Stages of Stress:
Signs of stress, pg. 63:
Responses to stress:
Dynamics Of stress and abuse at hOme:
time management and coping
Chapter 1: What is health?
Book: Health, Prenctice Hall
Review the concepts found in your book:
To make sure your goals are clear and reachable, each one should be:
Chapter 2: Personality
Activity: work in groups of three or four, and write about what personality is and where it comes from.
Then share with the class:
Self-esteem and your health
Thinking of what you are thankful for immediately puts you in a good state of mind. Telling people that you are thankful for their existence immediately puts them in a good state of mind, it is easy, and it is free.
How self-esteem develops:
Activity: look at page 39
maslow's hierarchy of needs
Achieving your potential
Expressing anger in healthy ways
pg.42 in our book
Find constructive alternatives:
Healthy Relationship Information:
Guilt and shame:
Recognizing your emotions
Coping with emotions:
Common defense mechanisms
Sometimes the way you feel is a response to abuse