Dimensions of wellness and healthy community
Write three things or ideas that help with each of these dimensions of wellness:
Physical and Health:
we get taxed when we work, buy, sell, or own
Taxes are meant to promote the common good.
write down an activity that you will act out, the person in front of you will relay your message
How about telephone?
cognitive bias affects communication
Cognition: "the mental action or process of acquiring knowledge and understanding through thought, experience, and the senses".
Bias: disproportionate weight in favor of or against one thing, person, or group compared with another, usually in a way considered to be unfair.
WHAT IS A COGNITIVE BIAS?
Humans tend to think in certain ways that can lead to systematic deviations from making rational judgments.
These tendencies usually arise from:
what is community?
what about loneliness?
what makes a healthy community?
sociology is concerned with power dynamics, equality, and reflecting on freedom
A person suffering from chronic mental disorder with abnormal or violent social behavior.
This checklist identifies the following as the symptoms and signs of psychopathy:
the humanity of the psychopath
"Like healthy people, many psychopaths love their parents, spouse, children, and pets in their own way, but they have difficulty in loving and trusting the rest of the world. Furthermore, psychopaths suffer emotionally as a consequence of separation, divorce, death of a beloved person, or dissatisfaction with their own deviant behavior."
In the past decade, neurobiological explanations have become available for many of the traits of psychopathy. For example, impulsivity, recklessness/irresponsibility, hostility, and aggressiveness may be determined by abnormal levels of neurochemicals, including monoamine oxidase (MAO), serotonin and 5-hydroxyindoleacetic acid, triiodothyronine, free thyroxine, testosterone, cortisol, adrenocorticotropic hormone, and hormones of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal and hypothalamic-pituitary-gonadal axes.
It may be possible to diminish traits such as sensation-seeking, impulsivity, aggression, and related emotional pain with the help of psychotherapy, psychopharmacotherapy, and/or neurofeedback. Long-term psychotherapy (at least 5 years) seems effective in some categories of psychopaths, in so far as psychopathic personality traits may diminish.
Lithium is impressive in treating antisocial, aggressive, and assaultive behavior.
studies show that being "bad" is a choice
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Profile of the Sociopath
- Glibness and Superficial Charm.
- Manipulative and Conning. They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. ...
- Grandiose Sense of Self. ...
- Pathological Lying. ...
- Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt. ...
- Shallow Emotions. ...
- Incapacity for Love.
- Need for Stimulation.
Those with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) may begin to show symptoms in childhood, but the condition can't be diagnosed until adolescence or adulthood.
Those with antisocial personality disorder tend to lie, break laws, act impulsively, and lack regard for their own safety or the safety of others.
Symptoms may lessen with age.
Treatment may include talk therapy and support for affected family members.
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The solution is to constantly check ourselves, every word, every action, every idea.
- To dissect our values, and allow other people that love us to dissect our values and ideas.
- If we are surrounded by people who do not love us we might choose to speak less around them to avoid awkward situations.
- If your coworkers can't find a way to stop being oppressive, perhaps racist, you can just say hello, goodbye, have a nice day... restorative justice is designed for a community effort, if you have a group of three people that experience racism, they can share their ideas and feel supported. If is is just one person and the racist person, there is a high possibility that the racist person will deny the experience of the oppressed and cause more trauma. PTSD from racism is currently in the DSM.
- Find a community that you can connect to, if one is not safely available try youtubers that you can relate to or online forums.
- Sometimes we end up socializing online for safety, do whatever works best fr you at the time, maybe later you can have the opportunity to be part of a safe community.
- Perhaps you can create a safe community with the help of a local organization or a school.
- You are never alone, many people are probably looking for a safe community too, you can potentially work together.
Creative outlets help with self-expression and boredom.
Schools and communities need music and art, if we had more music and art we would probably see less struggles with mental health and the will to live and let live.
Art communities are places where people can make each other better people by speaking their mind and supporting each other.
Back up your friends and surround yourself with people that will back you up.
- Pointing out oppressive language is an excellent first step: point out racism, sexism, trans-phobic sentiments, homophobia, class-ism.
- Not all people hold on to oppressive beliefs, millions of people can speak freely without saying terrible things because they do not keep terrible values.
- The benefits of not being a terrible person outweigh the costs as being chill means maintaining lifelong happiness.
- Sometimes people have not seen another way to be and need a healthy example, a community can help.
- It is ok to keep healthy boundaries and not meet a person with oppressive values in private. If they invite you to a bar, you can suggest brunch... you don't owe them brunch though, that is only if you want to meet them outside of the group and want a daytime alternative.
- Human beings need family friendly, daytime activities with music and art, that are free or low cost. Preferably in a public place, in the middle of town, with cell phone access.
- A person that would like to break the habit of oppressive values will be open to being corrected by their peers. If their intent is truly peaceful, they will change themselves.
- People change themselves, when they want to, when they value the change and the benefits of being what their society recognizes as a "better person".
- Celebrate kindness, in yourself and in others, Even if kindness is self-serving and founded in selfishness.
- A psychopath might open a free clinic and provide medical care, just to feed a sense of grandiose accomplishment.
Fostering a community of people that feel empowered to provide feedback and call out oppressive words and behavior is a form of restorative justice.
- People need to be free to share anything you share with them and then choose to honor your privacy out of sheer free will.
- They need to be able to speak up if you tell them something that they feel a need to share with others, especially if their intent is to help you, and create community around an issue.
So, psychopathy and SOCIOPATHY are human possibilities, ANyone can do what they do, it is a matter of choice,
the aspect that stands out is lack of empathy
not being able to consider how others feel
being abused does not cause a person to become abusive
If they lack the ability to empathize with themselves, if they cannot recognize how they feel, they might adopt the reasoning and values of the abuser and justify abuse
otherwise, recognizing their own pain is likely to lead to not wanting to inflict that pain on another
this is how people that have gone through abuse oftentimes work to rid the world of abuse.
career choices for the Benign psychopath:
- Writer, especially horror, mystery, or science fiction
- Comic book creator
- Anything in film
- Social Worker
- Crisis Worker
So any job, especially any job that inspires creativity, being super present because anything can happen, and is different every day.
The appearance shallow emotions can be the result of Stoicism, not being shocked and choosing to react, or not react.
Retail sales and up sales are manipulative. Creating a business applies many psychopathic traits.
Humans are constantly looking for a balance between profit and ethics, benefit and a sense of caring.
- We can learn reasons to care about others even if we do not share the feeling of simply caring.
- What does that even mean? Since a feeling is so abstract, what matters is how each individuals' existence manifests on the planet.
- Their legacy and how they contributes to well-being.
- Nobody gets to tell anyone else whether or not what they feel is real or valid.
Human happiness is relative, we each have a unique concept of how happy we are in relation to how happy we have been before. Since everything we experience is the result of everything we have experienced in the past, we are constantly synthesizing how we feel according to what we know, and what we would like to know.
We can condition ourselves to believe that we are feeling-less monsters, others can condition us to believe that we are too.
What matters is the evidence of your actions.
Do people have to recover after dealing with you?
Or is their life better because they met you?
trust yourself to maintain peaceful intent, know that nothing can change you, only you can change you.
check in with yourself regularly, accept feedback from others... question everything.
See what evidence supports any feedback or concern, ask for examples or more details to gain clarity, and filter out manipulation.
Confessions of a Former Member of r/niceguys
mental COMPLEXITIES continued
Anxiety Disorder: when the anxiety persists a long time and interferes with daily activities
Common anxiety signs and symptoms include:
- Feeling nervous, restless or tense
- Having a sense of impending danger, panic or doom
- Having an increased heart rate
- Breathing rapidly (hyperventilation)
- Feeling weak or tired
- Trouble concentrating or thinking about anything other than the present worry
- Having trouble sleeping
- Experiencing gastrointestinal (GI) problems
- Having difficulty controlling worry
- Having the urge to avoid things that trigger anxiety
Phobias: anxiety that is related to a specific situation or object
- Fast heart rate
- Rapid Breathing
- Fear of Suffocation
- Believes that they are dying
- Trembling and Shaking
- Choking Sensation
- Chest discomfort or pain
- Nausea or stomach distress
- Dizziness or lightheadedness
- Fear of losing control
- An "out of body" sensation
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: and unwanted thought or image that takes control of the mind is an obsession, and obsession can lead to a compulsion, the unreasonable need to behave in a certain way to prevent a feared outcome.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: a person has difficulty recovering after experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event. After surviving a life threatening event.
The condition may last months or years, with triggers that can bring back memories of the trauma accompanied by intense emotional and physical reactions.
Symptoms may include nightmares or unwanted memories of the trauma, avoidance of situations that bring back memories of the trauma, heightened reactions, anxiety, or depressed mood.
Mood Disorder: when people experience extreme emotions that make it difficult t go through daily life.
Bipolar Disorder: an example of a mood disorder, also called manic depressive disorder, during a manic episode people might be very energetic and creative. The manic period is followed by a period of deep depression, a period where the person feel extremely sad and hopeless.
Schizophrenia: disturbance of thinking, mood, awareness, or behavior. Means "split mind", aspects of mind are separated from reality. Rarely harmful to others, the person may develop fears that are not supported by reality.
- Usually involves delusions, hallucinations or disorganized speech, and reflects an impaired ability to function.
- May develop creative music, writing, illustration, many forms of art
Impulse-control Disorders: cannot resit the impulse of drive to act in a way that is harmful to themselves or to others. Can lead to addiction.
Personality Disorders: rigid patterns of behavior that make is difficult for them to get along with others
Cluster A (Odd, bizarre, eccentric)
- Paranoid PD, Schizoid PD, Schizotypal PD
Cluster B (Dramatic, erratic)
- Antisocial PD, Borderline PD, Histrionic PD, Narcissistic PD
Cluster C (Anxious, fearful)
- Avoidant PD, Dependent PD, Obsessive-compulsive PD
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- Anorexia is characterized by a distorted body image, with an unwarranted fear of being overweight.
- Symptoms include trying to maintain a below-normal weight through starvation or too much exercise.
- Medical treatment may be needed to restore normal weight. Talk therapy can help with self-esteem and behavior changes.
Bulimia: A serious eating disorder marked by binging, followed by methods to avoid weight gain.
- Bulimia is a potentially life-threatening eating disorder.
- People with this condition binge eat. They then take steps to avoid weight gain. Most commonly, this means vomiting (purging). But it can also mean excessive exercising or fasting.
- Treatments include counseling, medications, and nutrition education.
signs of clinical depression
Mood: anxiety, apathy, general discontent, guilt, hopelessness, loss of interest, loss of interest or pleasure in activities, mood swings, or sadness
Behavioral: agitation, excessive crying, irritability, restlessness, or social isolation
Sleep: early awakening, excess sleepiness, insomnia, or restless sleep
Whole body: excessive hunger, fatigue, or loss of appetite
Cognitive: lack of concentration, slowness in activity, or thoughts of suicide
Weight: weight gain or weight loss
Also common: poor appetite or repeatedly going over thoughts
The intent is to relieve pain from thoughts and painful feelings
May be a symptom of mood disorder, anxiety disorder, or eating disorder
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maladaptive vs healthy coping behavior
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- Affects all kinds of people, all races, levels of education and income level
- 2016, nearly 45,000 Americans age 10 or older died by suicide.
- Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death and is one of just three leading causes that are on the rise.
- A previous suicide attempt of a family history of suicide
- Mental disorder or substance abuse disorder
- Feelings of hopelessness and isolation
- Lack of access to mental health treatment
- Being influenced by suicide of peers, family members or celebrities
- Sometimes a suicide or attempted suicide triggers other suicides, especially among teens.
- A series of suicides that occur over a short period of time in the same peer group or community.
you are valuable and we all need you here, reality is incomplete without you
when a friend is talking about suicide
- Trust your feelings
- Take the threats seriously
- Tell them how concerned you are
- Tell them that they matter to you
- Listen carefully
- Talk calmly
- Involve a trusted adult
- Stay until help arrives
- Dare the person to go ahead with the suicide attempt
- Judge the person
- Analyze the person's motives
- Argue or offer reasons to not commit suicide
- Leave the person Alone
- Talk to a trusted adult or a friend
- Use a talk line such as Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
- See if you feel isolated and if you can go where there are other people
- Even if you don't talk to the other people about the ideation, being near other may help
- If you have a weapon or pills, put them away in a place that is out of sight and that is hard to get to.
- Practice coping skills or practice a distraction such as art or watch a movie
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healthy coping mechanisms
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finding community resources
Psychiatrists: after medical school, doctors may get advanced training in treatment of mental health disorders to become a psychiatrists, they can diagnose a mental health disorder and prescribe medication if needed.
Neurologist: a physician who treats physical disorders or the nervous system.
Clinical Psychologist: trained to recognize and treat behavior that is not withing the range of normal human behavior. They have a doctoral degree and at least two years of practical training in clinics and hospitals.
Social Workers: listen to people and connect them to services
Psychiatric Social Worker: helps people with mental disorders and helps their families to accept and adjust to an illness.
Mental Health Counselors: some work on specific problems or work with specific groups of people. A substance abuse counselor works with people that have problems with alcohol abuse or other drugs. School counselors work with students. Youth counselors work with teenagers.
kinds of treatments
Psychotherapy: The person talks to the therapist to help understand their experience.
Insight Therapy: helps people better understand their behavior to see if a
better understanding can lead to change in behavior.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: helps the person identify situations, objects,
or thoughts that trigger abnormal behaviors to
learn new ways to behave.
Group Therapy: people with with others that can relate to work on coping skills together.
Drug Therapy: medication can relieve symptoms and help the person feel balanced.
Hospitalization: staff helps the person be safe and looks out for self-harm or harm to others. There is constant access to mental health professionals. This can be a good option when being in the person's usual environment would not be safe at the time even though they are not a danger to themselves or others.
Example: the person forgets who they are or their school or work schedule. They may forget that they are a student and forget where they live, or may be struggling with paranoia. People usually recover from this.
Hospitalization is generally temporary, just a week or two.
Social workers can help people adapt to the transition back home.
emdr and cbt
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Art activity: let's create some motivational posters
what is a healthy romantic relationship?
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Relationships to others can affect our mental health so it was good to go over what a healthy relationship is like before talking about mental health.
fear of intimacy and love languages
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what is mental health?
Mental health is stability, homeostasis, being able to cope with change and function, a person with a mental disorder may have a hard time with maintaining relationships, jobs, do school work, take tests, or be able to complete daily functions.
Mental illness is not necessarily bad, it is a way of being and experiencing life, what matters is how we cope with our experience, we can learn ways to respond to situations and experiences and live long happy lives with "mental illness".
There are ups and downs, human emotions that have been labeled, and coping strategies like self-care and deep breathing.
We are constantly finding balance between second guessing ourselves and trusting our intuition, reacting and not reacting, considering and overthinking, worrying and hoping for the best, we are filtering our experience, our past experience informs how we filter our present moment, our brain is one big equation.
A well managed experience is really just mental awareness, we have mental diversity, many people feel that it is not an illness at all. Each person has a unique experience so what may be scary for some may be the norm for others.
What matters is your perspective.
causes of mental illness
Heredity: a person may inherit a tendency toward a mental disorder, this does not mean that the person will have the mental disorder, they could be at greater risk if events in their life trigger the disorder.
Early Experiences: extremely negative experience early in life can trigger mental illness. child neglect, child abuse,o r listening to people fight.
Recent Experiences: Mental illness can start at any point during a person's life, an experience can lead to a struggle with mental health. And example may be the death of a loved one or domestic violence.
types of mental illness
- Does not pay attention to details
- Makes careless mistakes
- Does not seem to listen
- Is disorganized
- Forgets to do daily activities
- Is easily distracted
- Has difficulty following instructions
Signs of Hyperactivity
- Fidgets or squirms while seated
- Has trouble staying in seat
- Frequently runs around or climbs
- Has trouble working quietly
- Talks excessively
- Has trouble waiting or taking turns
- interrupts others
Persistently depressed mood or loss of interest in activities, causing significant impairment in daily life. Feelings of hopelessness and extreme sadness.
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A mental health disorder characterized by feelings of worry, anxiety, or fear that are strong enough to interfere with one's daily activities.
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benzodiazepines and ssris
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when we are stressed or frustrated
- Create a list of activities that make you happy so you can do those when you are stressed.
- It can be deep breathing, listening to music, or writing
Compensation- Making up for weakness in one area by excelling in another area
Rationalization- Making excuses for actions or feelings
Reaction formation- behaving in a way opposite to the way you feel
Projection- putting your own faults onto another person
Regression- Returning to immature behaviors to express emotion
signs of stress
- overeating or hardly eating at all
- sleep problems
- being in a rush or talking fast
- reckless behavior
Changes in thinking
- unable to concentrate
- negative thinking
- excessive worrying
- critical of others
- muscle tension
- upset stomach
- pounding heart
- shortness of breath
- increased sweating
- skin rash
- increased crying
stress can cause
- lowered resistance to disease
- heart disease
what matters is how we respond to stress
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coping with stress
- time management
- giving yourself a cleaning schedule
- mental rehearsal and practice
- physical activity
how to avoid negative thinking
- The best way is through
- Accept the negative thinking, don't avoid
- Feel what you feel
- Practice self compassion
- Practice self care
- See what you feel next
- Help other people that you can now relate to
Man's Search for Meaning audiobook by Viktor E Frankl
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ways to build resilience
- Take care of yourself- make a list of personal self-care
- Build a support system- develop good relationships, don't screw other people over
- Take action- decide what needs to be done
- Help somebody- find ways to relate to others
- Confide in yourself- think
- Go easy on yourself- self-compassion
- Put things in perspective- look at other times when you have felt this way
- Find a hassle-free zone- find places where you can feel free from stress
- Sick to your routines- create a schedule
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black history month
what are your boundaries?
What types of relationships or types of boundaries?
What would you like the people in your life to know that is hard to communicate?
What is a healthy relationship like? How do you know that it is a healthy relationship?
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.