What is Personality?
The way that we express who we are, the behaviors, attitudes, feelings, and ways of thinking that make you an individual.
personality traits according to chapter 2 in our book
ways to learn more about who you are
To create goals that are clear and reachable, create SMART goals:
THOUGHTS to consider
The more we respect other people, the more we realize that people can be respectful, we are more likely to believe that other can be respectful because if we can do it, so can they
If someone is not respecting you, you can stop engaging, you are free to stop talking to them, we can't change anyone. You can let them know how they are bugging you but if they shame you or deny your experience then there is nothing you can do about that.
Retaliation often leads to escalation.
We tend to surround ourselves with people that are like us and share our sense of humor, this is the reason some people believe think stuff like "all people are racist" or "all men are sexist", oppression is normalized though "sense of humor" to mask the intent to oppress. A lot of truth is said in jest as people reveal their innermost values.
A great way to stop saying oppressive things is to stop thinking in an oppressive way.
If we say something oppressive, it is not a "slip-up", it is an expression of our values, we can correct ourselves by remembering where we learned to think this way and unpack our own logic. Reflect on why you said what you said and apologize to anyone that was hurt. Sometimes we have to unlearn may things to move forward.
Oppressive means: sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic, classist... any form of hate or negativity that aims to put some groups of people over others.
All oppression is learned.
It is usually a fear of lack of control over a situation, or fear of lack of resources. For example racism can come from wanting to put people down so they don't feel that they deserve to share space with you. Racism tends to discourage people from applying to jobs; they might feel that they won't fit in, or will constantly have to cope with racism and be stressed out on a daily basis.
A fear of lack of job opportunity can motivate a community to use racism to push people away; it is direct oppression, and it hurts entire communities.
This can rob us of the opportunity to learn from each other and even create more jobs.
Our values affect our personality.